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Culture of Empathy Builder:  Owen Marcus
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Owen Marcus & Edwin Rutsch: Dialogs on How to Build a Culture of Empathy with Men
For the last 15 years Owen Marcus has focused on men issues and men’s groups. Six years ago he started Sandpoint Men Groups where he teaches other men to lead deep groups. For the last couple of years he has also blogged  about men issues at OwenMarcus.com.

Below is an interview with Macus on the topic of how men can develop more empathy, as well as, two panel discussions on the topic.
"One of the values that I think men in particular have to pass on is the value of empathy. Not sympathy, empathy. And what that means is standing in somebody else's shoes, being able to look through their eyes. You know, sometimes we get so caught up in "us" that it's hard to see that there are other people and that your behavior has an impact on them.

And sometimes brothers in particular don't like to feel empathy, don't like to think in terms of "How does this affect other people?" because we think that's being soft. There's a culture in our society that says we can't show weakness and we can't, therefore, show kindness. That we can't be considerate because sometimes that makes us look weak."
Barack Obama
 

Owen Marcus & Edwin Rutsch: Dialogs on How to Build a Culture of Empathy with Men


Transcripts

  • 00:00 Introduction (transcription pending)

  • (Video Transcriptions: If you would like to take empathic action and create a transcription of this video, check the volunteers page.  The transcriptions will make it easier for other viewers to quickly see the content of this video.)

 

 How to Build a Culture of Empathy with Men's Groups: Owen Marcus, Ken Solin, Edwin Rutsch 
A discussion with Owen Marcus and Ken Solin, both leaders in the men's movement, on how to use micro-communities to teach men empathy and other missing emotional skills. Both Owen and Ken are long term workshop leaders and have a new initiative for building a men's movement to foster Masculine Emotional Intelligence. They hold Man Camp Weekends and have a tool kit where men can start their own circles.

Some of the questions addressed in this dialog were;

  • How would men sitting together shift the ‘culture of empathy’?

  • What is the best way to not just educate men about empathy, but teach the skill?

  • Why are men behind on the empathy curve?

  • In your Man Camp Weekend you speak about a man “being his own hero” – what does that mean?

  • How can men learn empathy in one weekend?

"One of the values that I think men in particular have to pass on is the value of empathy. Not sympathy, empathy. And what that means is standing in somebody else's shoes, being able to look through their eyes. You know, sometimes we get so caught up in "us" that it's hard to see that there are other people and that your behavior has an impact on them.

 And sometimes brothers in particular don't like to feel empathy, don't like to think in terms of "How does this affect other people?" because we think that's being soft. There's a culture in our society that says we can't show weakness and we can't, therefore, show kindness. That we can't be considerate because sometimes that makes us look weak."  Barack Obama
Sub Conference: Home & Family

How to Build a Culture of Empathy with Men's groups: Owen Marcus, Ken Solin, Edwin Rutsch 
Topics

  • What is the best way to not just educate men about empathy, but teach the skill?

  • Why are men behind on the empathy curve?

  • In your Man Camp Weekend you speak about a man “being his own hero” – what does that mean?

  • How can men learn empathy in one weekend?

  • What is it like to be at this weekend or in a men’s group?

  •  Why haven’t someone before offered to guide men around starting a micro-community (men’s group)?

  • How can a man start his own micro-community?

  • Why go to your weekend, why not do it alone?

  • What is Masculine Emotional Intelligence?

  • How would men sitting together shift the ‘culture of empathy’?


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Panel 007-A: How to Create a Culture of Empathy with Men?

Moderator: Owen Marcus

Panelist: David Mabelle

Panelist:  Michael Welp

Convener:  Edwin Rutsch


 

Owen Marcus moderates this panel discussion about how men can deepen their empathy and live more fulfilling lives. Owen, David and Michael facilitate men's groups.

 

2012-03-04 -  Empathy – Men’s New Secret Weapon by Owen Marcus
"What empathy gives you. You may find yourself enjoying life more. The more you connect to others, the deeper the interaction. It is as if you step beyond a screen to actually contact the person. You go from being an observer or critic, to a participant. What others don’t tell you is that you first need to connect to yourself, before there is the possibility of connecting to another. "
 

2008-06-15 - Barack Obama Promotes Empathy: Fathers Day Apostolic Church Chicago, IL

The second thing we need to do as fathers is pass along the value of empathy to our children. Not sympathy, but empathy – the ability to stand in somebody else's shoes; to look at the world through their eyes. Sometimes it's so easy to get caught up in “us,” that we forget about our obligations to one another. There's a culture in our society that says remembering these obligations is somehow soft – that we can't show weakness, and so therefore we can't show kindness. 

But our young boys and girls see that. They see when you are ignoring or mistreating your wife. They see when you are inconsiderate at home; or when you are distant; or when you are thinking only of yourself. And so it's no surprise when we see that behavior in our schools or on our streets.

That's why we pass on the values of empathy and kindness to our children by living them. We need to show our kids that you're not strong by putting other people down – you're strong by lifting them up. That's our responsibility as fathers.